Unless you learn to face your own shadows, you will continue to see them in others, because the world outside you is only a reflection of the world inside you.
The undesirable traits or behaviors that we repeatedly see exhibited by others toward us, can very often simply be a reflection of things which we need to examine within ourselves. Some can be so deeply rooted in our own subconscious, that we do not even recognize they are there. Pay close attention to those repeating patterns and look inward to that which is in you that may be attracting them to you. Rather than trying to "fix" something in another, focus on that which you can take from the experience, to resolve your own negative emotions and responses.
Do not be deceived and deluded and misled; God will not allow Himself to be sneered at (scorned, disdained, or mocked by mere pretensions or professions, or by His precepts being set aside.) [He inevitably deludes himself who attempts to delude God.] For whatever a man sows, that and that only is what he will reap.
~Galatians 6:6-8 (AMPC)~
And as you would like and desire that men would do to you, do exactly so to them. Love your enemies and be kind and do good [doing favors so that someone derives benefit from them] and lend, expecting and hoping for nothing in return but considering nothing as lost and despairing of no one; and then your recompense (your reward) will be great (rich, strong, intense and abundant), and you will be sons of the Most High, for He is kind and charitable and good to the ungrateful and the selfish and the wicked. So be merciful (sympathetic, tender, responsive, and compassionate) even as your Father is [all these]...do not condemn and pronounce guilty, and you will not be condemned and pronounced guilty; acquit and forgive and release (give up resentment, let it drop), and you will be acquitted and forgiven and released. Give, and [gifts] will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over...
~Jesus / Luke 6:31,35-38 (AMPC)~
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