When it becomes more difficult to suffer than to change...you will change.
~Dr. Robert Anthony~
Many times, our suffering and pain is a direct result of a stubborn refusal to change something in our own lives or nature, that is the direct or indirect cause of the suffering to begin with. It's easy to blame chance, circumstance, other people, satan (or even God) for things that go wrong. But as often as not, we need look no further than our own attitudes and behaviors. Whether it be a change in thought, attitude, actions, or desires...look inwardly at what can be done to remedy the situation, not outwardly. Amazingly, circumstances, relationships, and our own perception of things suddenly improve, when we focus first on that which we can always immediately change...our own perspective, nature and tendencies.
But now put away and rid yourselves [completely] of all these things: anger, rage, bad feeling toward others, curses and slander, and foulmouthed abuse and shameful utterances from your lips! Do not lie to one another, for you have stripped off the old (unregenerate) self with its evil practices, And have clothed yourselves with the new [spiritual self], which is [ever in the process of being] renewed and remolded into [fuller and more perfect knowledge upon] knowledge after the image (the likeness) of Him Who created it. Clothe yourselves therefore, as God's own chosen ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-beloved [by God Himself, by putting on behavior marked by] tenderhearted pity and mercy, kind feeling, a lowly opinion of yourselves, gentle ways, [and] patience [which is tireless and long-suffering, and has the power to endure whatever comes, with good temper]. Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive]. ~Colossians 3:8-10,12-15 (Amp)~ Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good, and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you]. ~Romans 12:1,2 (Amp)~
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